It's all about me

Thursday 31 March 2011

Real issues that should make the news instead of petty issues that dominate our local headlines

As much of a cliche as it may be - Children ARE our future - whether born from us or taken on by us through choice, situation or the will of God, whatever your religion. So surely if you believe in God, you know that he protects the meek, the weak, the defenseless, the innocent and the vulnerable and who more than fits those criteria than children? It's about time we addressed and updated some of our archaic laws and systems.

I know this looks like a long post but we do have a voice and a responsibility to our children (even if you have none of your own, you may have nieces, nephews, cousins etc) so please commit a little time to read the following letter.

We would love to get it published but I'm pretty darn sure it won't be... so we do what we can to spread the word around and 'educate' people. To educate is to empower.

Who needs to get things 'published' anymore with this wonderful virtual world we have at our finger-tips called the world wide web - please do your part to make this letter viral.

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Dear Mr. Prime Minister,

My mummy wanted to write this letter and use expletives and cite laws to fight on behalf of children like me in Malaysia, but I told her it would sound better if it came from me and you might listen? Mummy tends to yell a little too loud and she's such a drama queen sometimes!

So here goes...

Dear Prime Minister,

My name is Zara Hana Abdullah. I know this is my name because this is what Mummy says it is and everyone who knows me and loves me says this is my name. My Aunty Shireen named me Zara and my Aunty Sian named me Hana and told me what the 2 names mean- Zara is 'Princess' and Hana means Grace...so i'm actually Princess Grace, which makes my Oma very happy because she loves all those Grace Kelly movies.

But according to Malaysian law, I do not exist legally because I have no birth certificate. Every child is entitled to a birth certificate, so that we know they have a name and some information about them. Mummy says the reason why I don't have one is because in the application form for a birth certificate, there is a box that says," if you don't have proof of the child's birth, then there must be 2 witnesses who was there at the time of birth. I don't have 2 witnesses since Mummy found me at 2 and a half months old.So now, she cannot fill out the birth certificate. Welfare officers say they'll help Mummy fill out the application, but that was last year. I know the Welfare Department cannot do everything, so Mummy nags them once a week and now she tells me they run when they see her or do not pick up the phone. But I know Mummy will catch them and make them file the application for me.

I know I'm 3 years old because that it is what the Aunty told my mummy- the one who gave me to Mummy? I also know I'm 3 years old because Mummy took me to the doctor and the doctor said that's most probably how old I am. And Aunty said, I was born on the 18th of February so that's when I celebrate my birthday!

When I get my birth certificate, Mummy says that my name cannot be Zara Hana Abdullah because I'm Muslim and I don't know who my real daddy is so my name must be Zara Hana Binte Abdullah to show that I am the daughter (Binte) of Abdullah ( God- one of 99 names for Allah) which also means that I am a child 'born out of wedlock'

Because Mummy and I had to go to court, to finalize my adoption, my birth certificate will be exchanged for a certificate of adoption, which looks like a birth cert except for a clause that says I'm adopted. I'm okay with that as my legal paper. But there may be problems when I apply for a passport, open a bank statement , apply to university, try to get a visa abroad...is this true, Mr, Prime Minister?

Mummy says too that I am not Malaysian. That I have no citizenship- I am stateless, which means I don't belong to any country and Malaysia does not want me if Mummy doesn't fight for me or you don't pass the law to say it's okay for Mummy to give me her citizenship?

May I please belong to a country?

Without a country, I cannot go to school, I cannot get a passport, I cannot go to university, leave the country, travel , get married, or really know what i"ll be able to be when I grow up because I have no future! No future like my brother or my cousins?

Mummy says that under Muslim law, she is just my Guardian, not my adopted parent and it will be more difficult for her to apply for me to get citizenship. Is this true? if it's possible, can you please tell me how long it will take? In days please? I can't count months and years yet!

Mummy was very angry yesterday after her meeting because she said some grown up officer said that I am one of 'those' children- a foreigner that does not deserve the same rights and protection as a Malaysian. How does she know I'm not Malaysian and not a foreigner? If you're not sure, wouldn't you assume that I just am so I have a brighter future?

Another grown up said that I am a threat to national security because there are so many of us. I'm quite sure if someone gave me away and it's now been 3 years, no one is going to come back and claim me! So, I'm really no threat! Just give me PR status please, till you investigate more but let me go to school with my brother and cousins.

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Okay, it's me now...took the laptop back from Zara, who's gone to kindergarten...someone was nice enough to let me send her to kindergarten with no papers because they know me and her brother!

The fact is that the Adoption law has been in existence since 1952 and we have different laws for Peninsula Malaysia, Sabah and Sarawak. There has been one revision made in 1984. There are different adoption laws and regulations for Muslim children and non Muslim children.

I apparantly, am Zaid's adopted mother but Zara's guardian till she's 18? I'm just absolutely confused by this difference and apparantly this affects the process for citizenship and her basic rights.

The process of adoption is apparantly subjective as is the criteria. There is no standardization, it's more difficult for poor people to adopt legally and the laws and responsibilities by the different agencies are so archaic and convoluted!

Immigration says, JKM, JKM says JPN and so on and so forth! AG's Chamber just says, " saya yang menurut perintah'

In the meantime, I'm pulling my hair out, running from one agency to another, trying to placate hysterical parents on how they can get travel passes for their children - it's Immigration again guys who issue travel passes and no, no JKM letter to help, Syariah law..who knows what, JKM looks at guardianship of children but JPN decides on adopted children?

I need to go back and study the law and find ways and volunteers to help me dissect all these different laws and ways to protect our children in the meantime.

We need to say that yes, 'Prime Minister, we understand you have a country to protect and laws to uphold, but get with the times and look at how these old laws are hurting children. Children who would love this country and serve this country well and be productive, committed citizens.

We do this- delay,review, take our time, we continue to ensure that the poor stay poor, that marginalized children stay marginalized and children stay invisible!And they don't exist!

I know my daughter exists! And she's 3 and her name is Zara Hana Abdullah and she deserves to be Malaysian! And she deserves a better life than what the laws, if they remain the same, will condemn her too!

*source

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Please try not to be one of those people who always thinks "this is someone else's problem", for as long as this exists in our country, it is OUR problem.


Wednesday 30 March 2011

How time flies.... 7 year itch

I miss Hannah

Hannah is one of my oldest school friends from the UK. We were at boarding school together and being super BFFs we shared a room for our entire Lower 6th year (not the norm as you normally change dormitory / room mates every term/simester)No doubt we got up to lots of mischief together both in and out of school - countless 'exeat' (weekend leave) and half term shenanigans and adventures. We've holidayed together and Hannah even came out and stayed with me in KL for 6 weeks during the summer of our GCSE results... *eeeek* that was forever-ago.

I dug out a couple of pix of us taken 7 years ago during a holiday together at her Dad's home in France (on a truffle farm no less!). Hannah had just met Rob, 6 weeks earlier and was going on holiday with a bunch of her nearest and dearest to celebrate her birthday. Needless to say we all had plans to put Rob through a 'friends of Hannah initiation' process. Its amazing he survived it.

What occurred over the next 3 nights cannot be put in print let alone I publish the pictures. I did manage to find 2 that I am able to share....

*Group Hug*
Hannah sandwiched between me and Rob

Couldn't be b*ggered to photoshop the obvious indulgences on the table
*oh well*
Hannah has seen me through some of my toughest times - work stress, redundancy, heartache and heart break. Suffice to say that I have missed dearly in the 7 years that I have been back here in Malaysia

7 years on and Hannah and Rob have 2 beautiful sons - Harry and Laurie and a baby girl on the way.

7 years on and I think of and miss my old buddy more than ever before - I guess this is my 7 year itch ;)

I can't wait to see them all.... very soon.

This one's for you Hans

*cue sound of smirnoff ice bottles clinking*

xxx

Tuesday 29 March 2011

Friendship, Family, Frolics & Freedom!

Saw this pic on a friend's FB profile and just had to steal it and share it (with permission of course)


It says so many things to me... Frolics, friendship, family & freedom :)

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Friday 25 March 2011

Mixtape of DJ Set: AirAsiaX/KLutched Paris Fashion Week Party March 2011 @Molotov PolitBar

The end of Feb and beginning of March was a bit of an insane time for me as a strange twist of fate ended up giving me the responsibility of organising an exclusive event for AirAsiaX.

In conjunction with the recent launch of their Paris - Kuala Lumpur route, AAX not only flew out new Malaysian accessory brand KLutched and their team to Paris during Paris Fashion Week but also threw an intimate party to introduce themselves to Parisians. With me providing the entertainment for the night by way of DJ-ing, it was truly a Malaysian night!


WIth Yiu Lin of KLutched (*note to self* singing and smiling for the camera does not always provide the best smile)

The party was held a very new and hip Russian themed bar called Molotov Politbar

Me with Anna (Owner of Molotov PolitBar)

Check out the mixtape of part of my playlist for the night where I also featured 2 brand new songs of mine :)


Photo Credit : Didi Ramlan

Thursday 24 March 2011

Living ur dreams whilst asleep.... Part 3

Part 3 of mum and photographer Adele Enersen's great work done whilst on maternity leave. Isn't baby Mila gorgeous





Tuesday 22 March 2011

The first ever LapSap Pool Party

Lapsap + multi colours + pool + rain = mayhem! Needless to say the event was a HUGE success!

Why do I look like such a GLeeeeeeek?!

How to 'B' twins

MisDeeds & Arabyrd aka Byrdeeds

DJ Xu
of Lapsap & DJ Goldfish (believe it or not) I do believe Goldfish was sporting those AMBUSH rings as seen on Kanye

Monday 21 March 2011

Fierce Angel pres. "Melissa Indot The EP" TODAY!

It's finally out! The Fierce Angel EP features ALL their remixes of my 3 tracks "Starlight', "This Time" and the latest "China". Stomping mixes for a fast approaching stomping Summer :)



Tracklisting

  1. Melissa Indot
    China
    EK's Extended Anthem Mix
  2. Melissa Indot
    China
    EK's Radio Edit
  3. Melissa Indot
    China
    Oxford Hustlers Retro Remix
  4. Melissa Indot
    China
    Oxford Hustlers Radio Edit
  5. Melissa Indot
    China
    Wayne G Mix
  6. Melissa Indot
    China
    Martin Wright's Out Of Asia Mix
  7. Melissa Indot
    Starlight
    EK's Starry Remix
  8. Melissa Indot
    This Time
    EK's Beach Angel Mix
You get purchase it via the following links :


Spotify

Please help to spread the word! :)

Thursday 17 March 2011

Living ur dreams whilst asleep.... Part 2

Part 2 of Mum and photographer Adele Enersen as she creates what her baby could be dreaming of as she sleeps....





Wednesday 16 March 2011

A Belated CNY dinner with Auntie G & Uncle Mark

It was lovely to see Auntie G and Uncle Mark during there recent visit home.. last time we saw each other was when we sitting in Victoria Park in the East of London, covered in dust and more ;)
Uncle Mark
Don't let the 2 different sauces touch!!!! DON'T!!!!
Yum Yum Homestyle Lok-Lok
Auntie G (who made everything!), Joyce, Yishyene, Clem, Nadia
Chinese Festive Table Dressing :)
Thank you Joyce for bringing us all together :) xxx